As you can imagine, coming out as a gay male can often times be a dramatic experience. But coming out while married and with children can be devastating to a family if done without extreme care and fore-thought. If you or someone you love is going through this process, it is important to note that you are not alone and that there are ways to go through the ordeal while maintaining a healthy relationship with your family. Men who find themselves at this cross road often feel very isolated, not knowing who they can turn ...
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As you can imagine, coming out as a gay male can often times be a dramatic experience. But coming out while married and with children can be devastating to a family if done without extreme care and fore-thought. If you or someone you love is going through this process, it is important to note that you are not alone and that there are ways to go through the ordeal while maintaining a healthy relationship with your family. Men who find themselves at this cross road often feel very isolated, not knowing who they can turn to for help. As a result, they can make rash decisions that may have long term negative effects. Women, on the other hand, can find themselves confused, angry, ashamed and with very low self esteem. It is important for the man to acknowledge these emotions and to address each of them with compassion and understanding. This can be extremely difficult, especially if he is dealing with his own emotional turmoil. It is imperative, however, that both individuals step back from their own personal feelings and put their children's needs first. By doing this, there is a greater chance they will come out of the transition a stronger, more resilient family unit. Remember, being gay is not a choice. The choice we do have, however, is accepting who we are and, at the same time, maintaining a healthy relationship with those we love. This is our journey. "I am a gay father of two and I'm about half way through the coming out process. This book is an honest accountpersonally, his story makes me think that we all are not so different from each other. No matter where we come from, what age we are, or from what creed, we all go through the same feelings and hurt at this crossroad we all share." -Armand Grey, Philippines
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